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Reflection… {No pictures in this one, people!}

Blame it on the cabin fever, blame it on the flu getting to my head, blame it on the medication…whatever the reason, I’ve had the opportunity to reflect on my current situation/life/business as it stands now over the last several days since I’ve been all cooped up!

I really do believe that everything happens for a reason. And as hard as it is for me to admit that it’s a GOOD thing that I got sick, a lot of good things came out of it. I think it was a higher power’s way of telling me to SLOW the heck down before I die of exhaustion. Yes, I missed a wedding I’ve been looking forward to for a year…but the positive of it was that it was a wedding that was in the extremely capable hands of one of my Lavish planners, Lisa, and honestly didn’t even need my help. At least I didn’t get sick one of my wedding photography dates. And yes I did go virtually INSANE being stuck in my house confined to my couch for several days…but I had a lot of time to THINK, reflect, and be grateful for my amazing son, who took care of me!  He covered me with blankets, gave me endless forehead kisses, told me “it’s ok mommy…I kiss and make it all better” {there is no medicine that can cure like that line coming from the most adorable 3 year old in the world}, and even was on his best behavior.

So I keep babbling about reflection, here’s what I’ve gathered.

BUSINESS

I’m so grateful for how far I’ve come, even in the last year, professionally. I’ve been blessed with amazing clients, a full schedule, and the means to make photography my full-time income without having to leave my son in someone else’s care. I DO think that I need to be more specific about my WORKING time and my PERSONAL time.   With an office next to the living room, it’s tough to make a separation. But I’m going to start setting myself a specific schedule to follow, so I can give my family my all when it’s personal time, and give my work my all when it’s working time.  I’ve also come to the conclusion that I’m at the point where I need to STICK to my pricing, no matter what. I finally understand now that my time is worth what I charge, and discounts are going to be a very rare thing going forward. It’s fair. The reasons WHY it’s fair are a whole other blog.

FAMILY

I am so grateful for my family, and I don’t give enough of myself to them. That is something I need to change. As stated in the “business” bullet point…it’s very difficult as a business owner to separate business and personal life. My family is my family forever, and they are the reason I work as hard as I do. I need to embrace them and give myself to them more often!  I have set up a schedule for my son and I–we’re going to start doing more fun things together, and I am going to be more available to him during the day at specific times for story time, play time, and active time {walk or run in the jogging stroller}.  As for JOE. He drives me nuts, he truly does. We’re opposite in so many ways. But he’s the best possible match for me. He’s wonderful. The OCD that I make fun of all the time is actually quite beneficial as he cooks, cleans, and does laundry. Sure, it may be because if he doesn’t do it himself he hyperventilates, but for whatever reason, I’m grateful that he does it! Yesterday I slept in until NOON (thanks to NyQuil) and when I woke up, he was making sauce in the kitchen, listening and singing along to Italian opera. Sound “gay” to you? Yep, me too. But I think every woman wishes they had a little more “gay” in their life.  It’s things like that that make my heart melt and so happy to have him in my life. He’s a phenomenal father, the perfect life partner (for ME), and after 11 years together I’m happy to say I still love him as much as I did when we first started dating.

MONEY

Yeah, I’m not good with my personal finances.  My business finances are always spot on. I keep graphs, statistics, registers, and charts out the wazoo. Personal finances, I don’t even balance my checkbook!  Yikes! I am proud to say that I am officially making more money working for myself than I have ever made working for anyone else. While that should be a good thing, I’m finding that now that I’m not scraping to pay the bills, I spend my money on meaningless things instead of doing it the smart way.  There are several things that I need to be saving for in separate accounts…so that’s what I’m going to start doing. I’m on a 30 day spending strike–no shoes, purses, or clothes. Baby steps! Every time I feel the urge to buy something, I’m going to take the money I’m thinking about spending and transfer it to savings. Maybe next month I’ll set up a new challenge.  I’m also very pleased to announce that I am currently 100% debt free. Yep. My school loans, car, credit cards, everything is paid of in full. I have zero business debt (which is EXTREMELY rare!) and zero personal debt. There, I just patted myself on the back. So for that, I am grateful.

RELIGION

I’m always pretty careful never to mention religion, simply to avoid the argument with people. I really don’t care to argue with anyone about what I believe or what they believe. I believe that everyone has a right to believe whatever they want, and I don’t believe that MY beliefs are the only way. Each person is entitled. I’m often asked what my beliefs are and I hate to answer that question. I don’t like labels all that much, and I don’t think that there’s really any one religion that entirely defines what I believe. I don’t categorize myself as a religious person, but  I am very spiritual. Basically most of the principles of Christianity mixed in with a little Buddhist and Kabbalah practice.  In other words, if Karma was a religion, it’d be mine.  Love everyone, forgive (that’s tough for me…I’m a grudge-holder by nature!), you reap what you sew, keep an open mind, and lead by example. The reason I’ve been “reflecting” on this the past few days, is that I don’t feel as though I’m giving enough back. So I’d like to take on a couple of projects using my photography that are going to help someone or a group of people in some way. I’m currently brainstorming and taking suggestions 🙂

FUN

Lastly, fun. I don’t have enough of it…and I need to start embracing life a little more. I don’t do enough socially with other women like me! Hopefully I can start making some of these “Erie Photography Gal” meetings and vent with some other people who know where I’m coming from…but I’d also like to do a once a month get together with anyone who wants to come (targeting moms though…because we need it most!!!). It can be at my house, someone else’s house, or out and about…or somewhere different every month! Anyone interested in that, please let me know!

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4 comments

  1. Lynda

    Kara!! I loved reading this and just wanted to say kudos. I believe everything happens for a reason and maybe you’re right about why you got sick. Good luck in all of your life changes and future endeavors! ❤

  2. Iyesha

    Hey Kara,

    Luved reading your blog. You truly took the words right out of my mouth on the religious piece! Congrats on the being debt-free, that’s an amazing achievement and a goal I can’t wait to reach! I’m so glad that we’ve met up in life again. Glad to have a photographer that I feel like I can truly connect with. Wishing you the best. A suggestion for giving back, maybe you could reach out to some local shelters and offer family portraits? I’m sure thats the last thing they are thinking about but would be such a nice and thoughtful thing to have especially with the holidays approaching?

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